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Pain Pill Dangers

Pain, doctors, pills, side effects, often addiction, worse yet overdose, death.

We live in such a time of pain pill addictions.

It’s so very sad, that something that was made to help a person with true aches and pains, has turned into a major epidemic where people are pill addicts and overdose victims.

From a personal standpoint, I can tell you they are very dangerous.

In some cases, when taken for a very short period of time, per doctors orders; they can leave you with side effects, sometimes serious.

Side effects that you may be forced to live with from now on.

I tell you that from actual personal experience, I was prescribed Dilaudid three times a day, for seven days after jaw surgery.

I could not function, all I did was sleep except when hubby woke me up for a boost to drink and more medicine.

When I finally finished it, and I finally could stay awake, slowly got my brain out of a weeklong fog, got the limbs working again, I thought to myself ok, ” I survived the surgery and the hardest part of recovery.”

But would you like to know a secret?

My problems were just beginning!

My entire body woke up, except for my stomach and digestive system.

The Dilaudid had paralyzed my digestive system.

It took a few years, several doctors, test after test, trial medications, and finally several trips to the Mayo Clinic in Florida, and even more tests, bunches of them, till I finally got a definitive answer and diagnosis.

What was the diagnosis? 

Severe gastroparesis due to the Dilaudid prescription that was prescribed in 2012, some four years earlier. 

Prognosis, basically my body could not process food as my digestive system should.  Plan of care,  boost and ensure and such drinks, at least six per day, lots of water, Benefiber and peppermint herbal tea, no food.

For how long you wonder?  The rest of my life; all because of a week of strong pain pills.

I have finally started getting used to it, I stick to my medical plan of care, eat some real food on Saturdays only, and then suffer in ways you can’t imagine til Wednesday when I medically treat it.

Week in, week out, this month, next month, next year, for the rest of my life.

But it’s hard, everywhere you look there is food.   Restaurants, billboards, magazines, television, movies, family get-togethers, Holidays, cookouts, Church socials, even grocery shopping. 

All of it is a never-ending reminder of the agony of pain pills effects on my system. 

I try so hard to act like it doesn’t bother me when everybody else is eating, and I’m drinking a protein drink. 

But it does, oh how it does.

I am 53 years old, I was in my mid 40’s when all this started, ensure and boost is for seriously sick Seniors, not a woman in her fifties.

Truthfully the whole situation just stinks, all because of pain pills.

People, please listen to me. 

Pain pills are ever so dangerous, the side effects, the fact that your body gets immune to them, and the pain gets worse, so you go back for higher doses again and again.

I don’t want anybody to ever go through what I do, and it can be avoided by just staying away from pain pills.

Most all of us have aches and pains, but use a muscle rub, ice, heat, massage, icy hot, aspercreme, bio freeze, the lists are endless, anything but pain pills.

Folks, please don’t become another statistic, don’t get so hooked on them that you become an opioid addict.

You’re worth more than that!  Your loved ones, family and friends care and love you dearly!

I’ve known so many people that have gotten seriously ill and some actually died from opioids. 

Some I think were by accident, simply took too many, but some were planned and deliberate. 

Don’t do that to your family and friends, not today, not tomorrow, not ever.

I’ve seen loved ones hooked on pills, stressing because they need their next ‘fix”.   Going to great lengths and stupid stunts to get it.

You can not start to imagine how much your addiction hurts your family and friends who love you! 

LISTEN TO ME, if you’re sitting there thinking, “Oh you’re wrong, my family and or my friends do it with me, it’s cool, it’s what everybody does.” 

Listen and please listen good.  They are NOT your friends. 

True friends want the best for you, and pain pills are anything but the best for you.

They destroy your body, you can become addicted, and keep wanting more and more, till one day you possibly overdose, and maybe, just maybe, somebody will find you in time, to get you medical help, maybe. 

To visit you in a hospital is one thing, but to have to visit you in a cemetery is the worst thing ever.

You’re precious, you’re wanted and you’re loved by so many! 

Don’t destroy your life and the life of your friends and loved ones because of stupid pain pills!

Don’t cause your loved ones to have to visit you in the cemetery with so many unanswered questions, the biggest one. 


“Why did you do this?”

“Why didn’t you leave the pills alone?” 

“Why didn’t you care enough to stop what you were doing to yourself?”

“Why didn’t you come to us for help?”

“Why didn’t you love us enough to stop?”

“What do I tell our children when they ask why you had to die?”

“Why were you so selfish, that you didn’t care enough to leave the stupid pills alone?”

“Why did you leave me?”

“I love you, I need you, I so want you back here with me.”



Helping Others

Do you know the joy of helping somebody else?

To me, there’s no greater gift that I can give another than to help.

I don’t mean just in monetary ways.

Just taking the time to do a kind gesture for a person.

Not because you have to, but because you want to.

You may be thinking, I can’t make ends meet now.

Helping others isn’t about money.

There are as many different ways to help somebody as there are crayon colors.

And Crayola makes some mighty big boxes of crayons, nowadays!

For instance, here are a few ways to help others:

Hold a door open for a person.

Get something off a high shelf for a shopper.

Put a persons shopping cart away for them.

Allow somebody with fewer items to go in front of you at checkout.

Share your umbrella with another in the rain.

Help carry somebodies shopping bags.

Send a card to a friend or family member just because.

Take time to listen when someone needs to talk.

Take a coworker a coffee one morning out of the blue.

Treat a friend to lunch.

Take food to a family that has lost a loved one.

Help a person rake leaves.

Help weed the flowerbed.

Volunteer to cut the grass.

Take time just to visit a neighbor.

Offer to babysit for a single parent, to give them some “me” time.

Stop and buy that box of girl scout cookies.

Give to the fireman, the Shriners, and other organizations, even if it’s just a dime.

Smile at everybody you see and say hello.

Visit a Senior Citizens home, and just sit and visit with one or two.

Volunteer at your Church for projects and tasks.

Shovel the snow from a driveway.

Offer a hug when someone is hurting.

Spend a few extra dollars at Christmas for a gift for a child, that won’t have anything.

Clean out your closet and donate to others that could use your clothes or shoes.

Donate those extra winter coats and gloves for others.

Drop off books to the jails or prisons.

Volunteer at a library, or hospital, or anywhere people are needed.

Volunteer to read stories to children at your local elementary school.

Just simply show kindness everywhere you go.

If you take the time to think about this,

You will come up with a lot more ideas.

And just imagine if we all just showed kindness and did one small gesture a day,

How much happier the people in this world would be.

The recipient will feel that someone cares, and you will feel a blessing in your heart.

So what are you waiting for?

Let’s all go help somebody, in some little way.

I promise you both will be blessed for it!!!

Til next time, dear friends!!!!

You Are Never Alone

Have you ever spent time alone?  I mean yes we all love a few moments alone from time to time, some of us more than others.

But this topic is for the people that are alone, not by any decision of their own. For some, it’s because of a separation, or travels, or the services. For some, it’s because of divorce or worse yet the loss of a dear loved one. I’ve never experienced the loneliness of losing a close loved one. So I’m not even going to pretend I know how those of you reading this feel. I simply don’t. I’m sure I will at some point in my life, but I can’t start to understand that now. Just know that my heart hurts for each of you dearly.

For this blog, I’m going to talk from the experience of divorce. It’s been a long time, many years ago actually, since I was alone. But I have never forgotten how it felt, how it hurt so badly at times. Yes, I was fortunate enough to have my children with me, which was a true blessing. We all three needed each other, we clung together through those hard times. Of course, they had their school friends, I had my coworkers, we had our family, neighbors, longtime friends.

But most importantly we had our Church family and God. Both my children came to know the Lord personally during those times. Which brings me to the point of this story. You see, daytime activities and the company of others gets you through those lonely hard days. True friends that love you, and are there for you with their time, listening ears, hugs, and shoulders to cry on.

But in the stillness of the night, the house is ever so quiet. The thoughts are just flying through your head and those emotions are working overtime. Those were the times I hated the most. A lot of times those nights seemed endless, and ever so hard to get through.

In your head, you know your not really alone. You have your children, family, friends, prayer warriors but in your heart during those emotional times, you feel like you are all alone, totally completely alone. I can remember many times, just balling my eyes out to the point that it seemed there weren’t any tears left.

But then one night, one really really low bad point I had had enough. Oh, the thoughts that raced through my mind that night. I had reached my lowest point. But then it happened….. GOD intervened through the call of a friend. She told me she had been awakened from a dream, and just knew she had to call me immediately.

So at 03:00 a.m. in the morning, my phone rang, just in the nick of time, with not a moment to spare. She was on that line, telling me she didn’t know what is wrong at that moment but she knew God awakened her and she had to call me just then. Today I am so very grateful beyond words for that phone call from my dear friend that was awakened with such an urgency to call me. She spent the next four hours on the phone with me.

God used my dear friend to let me know how very much He loves me. I am so very grateful she was a woman that listened to and obeyed the Lord, so very grateful! He helped me to realize through the action and obedience of my friend, that He cared deeply for me and my children; and we were never really alone.

That night was my turning point, yes I was in Church had been all my life. I knew God, gave my heart to Him years before then. But that night, that call, that friend that was awakened by the Lord, that put those thoughts into action and called, helped me to know God on a much deeper level. I knew then I would never ever really be alone.

There are so many verses in the Bible that talks of the Lord being with us. My absolute favorite is…………..

Hebrews 13:5

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have; for He hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

I hope you know the Lord, not just having heard of Him, or knowing Him in your head. I pray you know Him deep in your heart. That you talk with him daily, that He is your closest friend. Because when Jesus is walking with you, there is one thing for certain. You are never ever alone, never!

I’m so very glad and thankful that God loves each of us so much. Thank you, Father, for always watching over us, and being with us when we simply talk and walk with you. Help us always to listen for Your voice and obey, for we never know what soul we might be helping by listening to Your voice and being used by You. I so very much love you, Father!

Thank you, Lord!!!!!!

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