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The Dangers of Unforgiveness


Have you ever been hurt by somebody in such a way, that you didn’t think you could ever forgive them?

If we all were honest I would say we all have many times by many different people.

I know I have, I also know it took me a long time to truly forgive some of them.

But as long as you hold on to whatever hurt you have, or stay mad at the person, the only person that generally is affected in such a negative way is yourself.

I’ve had way more than my share of wrongs done to me, way more than I should have.

Please don’t think this is a woe is me story for sympathy because it’s not.

This blog is one of those please don’t follow in my footsteps blog.

And may I ask you to be open-minded as you read this?

It’s things gone wrong in my world that I hope to spare others from having happened to them.

I had a great childhood, our parents always made sure we had a roof over our head, plenty to eat, and we enjoyed a lot of fun times together. But there were times it wasn’t so wonderful!

My Mom and I never did seem to be able to be close as a mother and daughter should. It caused a lot of torment, tears and emotional scars. Some which I still deal with today once in a while.

But, she’s my Mom and I love her, and in my heart, I so long to have a truly genuine relationship as a mother and daughter should. That really hurts, but I’ve forgiven the wrongs, and try hard to forget the hurts.

Why? Because that type of relationship and static affects both of us, as well as our other family members.

Then there’s being left for another woman. You talking about knocking you to your knees, that will do it in a hurry.

Almost fifteen years of marriage, and two children and you get told at the Holidays he’s leaving. He found somebody else.

That crushed our world, please don’t think he was just a horrible man, because he wasn’t.

But he had a tragedy happen just a few months before the announcement. And Satan knew just when and where to pounce. I loved that man so, yet I hated him for what he did to our family, especially how he hurt our children!

But most of all I was ANGRY at her, for wooing him away. That anger grew and stewed and seethed inside me something awful.

No matter how hard I prayed, or attended church, or read the Bible, I couldn’t get past the rage I felt towards her.

But the strangest thing happened, he and I finally were able to talk a little bit without it turning into a war, and then I heard at work she was desperately sick. I felt sorry for her, I felt true sadness for her.

Then that Sunday night in choir practice I requested prayer for her. Yeah, I know, I was shocked when the words came out of my mouth too. But, never the less, I did.

I asked the choir members to pray for her for healing and for God to watch over her as only He could.

The most amazing thing happened when we said Amen, after all our prayers. I had peace, real honest to goodness down in your soul peace that only God can give, when you forgive somebody and set them free.

The seething anger, the hatred, the vengeful thoughts, the horrible despicable things I thought about her, all just simply went away, and was replaced with God’s mercy and grace!!

Please don’t hold unforgiveness in your heart of any kind toward anybody.

Please don’t let it destroy your joy and do that to you. There will be times you don’t think of the occasion at all.

That ugly monster will not show itself all the time, but it’s there lurking just waiting for the right moment to attack your emotions over and over again.

Unforgiveness is like cancer that just consumes more and more of you til your left just a bitter angry shell of a person.

It’s also like kudzoo that once that first little vine gets started, it spreads like wildfire inside you consuming all that is good, noble and peaceful.

Learn to forgive folks, it will bring a feeling of peace to your heart, a smile to your face and restful sleep at night.

No, it’s not always easy to do, but it’s necessary to do if you want a life of peace.

Sometimes you have to pray over and over again, “Lord help me to love this person as You do Father, help me to remember I choose to forgive this person, with Your help Lord!”

I promise you that if you sincerely ask God to help you, He will.

If that’s not enough motivation, stop and think of all the things you have done wrong to others, and all the sins and shortcomings you have done against God.

You want forgiveness from them and especially the Lord, don’t you?

Well, then don’t you think you should offer it to others as well?

You will be so thankful that you did!

Til next time!

You Are Never Alone

Have you ever spent time alone?  I mean yes we all love a few moments alone from time to time, some of us more than others.

But this topic is for the people that are alone, not by any decision of their own. For some, it’s because of a separation, or travels, or the services. For some, it’s because of divorce or worse yet the loss of a dear loved one. I’ve never experienced the loneliness of losing a close loved one. So I’m not even going to pretend I know how those of you reading this feel. I simply don’t. I’m sure I will at some point in my life, but I can’t start to understand that now. Just know that my heart hurts for each of you dearly.

For this blog, I’m going to talk from the experience of divorce. It’s been a long time, many years ago actually, since I was alone. But I have never forgotten how it felt, how it hurt so badly at times. Yes, I was fortunate enough to have my children with me, which was a true blessing. We all three needed each other, we clung together through those hard times. Of course, they had their school friends, I had my coworkers, we had our family, neighbors, longtime friends.

But most importantly we had our Church family and God. Both my children came to know the Lord personally during those times. Which brings me to the point of this story. You see, daytime activities and the company of others gets you through those lonely hard days. True friends that love you, and are there for you with their time, listening ears, hugs, and shoulders to cry on.

But in the stillness of the night, the house is ever so quiet. The thoughts are just flying through your head and those emotions are working overtime. Those were the times I hated the most. A lot of times those nights seemed endless, and ever so hard to get through.

In your head, you know your not really alone. You have your children, family, friends, prayer warriors but in your heart during those emotional times, you feel like you are all alone, totally completely alone. I can remember many times, just balling my eyes out to the point that it seemed there weren’t any tears left.

But then one night, one really really low bad point I had had enough. Oh, the thoughts that raced through my mind that night. I had reached my lowest point. But then it happened….. GOD intervened through the call of a friend. She told me she had been awakened from a dream, and just knew she had to call me immediately.

So at 03:00 a.m. in the morning, my phone rang, just in the nick of time, with not a moment to spare. She was on that line, telling me she didn’t know what is wrong at that moment but she knew God awakened her and she had to call me just then. Today I am so very grateful beyond words for that phone call from my dear friend that was awakened with such an urgency to call me. She spent the next four hours on the phone with me.

God used my dear friend to let me know how very much He loves me. I am so very grateful she was a woman that listened to and obeyed the Lord, so very grateful! He helped me to realize through the action and obedience of my friend, that He cared deeply for me and my children; and we were never really alone.

That night was my turning point, yes I was in Church had been all my life. I knew God, gave my heart to Him years before then. But that night, that call, that friend that was awakened by the Lord, that put those thoughts into action and called, helped me to know God on a much deeper level. I knew then I would never ever really be alone.

There are so many verses in the Bible that talks of the Lord being with us. My absolute favorite is…………..

Hebrews 13:5

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have; for He hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

I hope you know the Lord, not just having heard of Him, or knowing Him in your head. I pray you know Him deep in your heart. That you talk with him daily, that He is your closest friend. Because when Jesus is walking with you, there is one thing for certain. You are never ever alone, never!

I’m so very glad and thankful that God loves each of us so much. Thank you, Father, for always watching over us, and being with us when we simply talk and walk with you. Help us always to listen for Your voice and obey, for we never know what soul we might be helping by listening to Your voice and being used by You. I so very much love you, Father!

Thank you, Lord!!!!!!

Sunday Dinner

A good old-fashioned family Sunday dinner? 

Does anybody ever do such a thing anymore?  I can honestly say I haven’t really taken part in such a wonderful time in over 20 years. 

Aint that a shame?  

When I was in my first marriage, it was so important to my husbands’ Grandmother that family gathered after Church at their house for Sunday dinner.  It wasn’t every week, but usually at least every few Sundays. 

I still remember those times, like they were yesterday.

I hope you have fond memories of such times too.  You know, where all the women get up and fix something in the morning, then after Church most of the family gathers at Mammaws’ house.     Pappaw and his sons and grandsons built it themselves, for him and Mammaw.   It was just a simple small cabin and way too small for such a large family.

But did it stop us all from gathering?  Goodness no, they had a screened in front porch, and we all would just gather in the house, or outside on the porch, or even standing out in the yard just talking, laughing and eating Sunday dinner.

All the kids used to love those times.  It was a chance for them to see their cousins and have a great time together out in the yard playing, while us women would get everything warmed and ready to eat. 

Then afterward all us women would tidy up, cover things on the table in case anybody else might show up, or somebody might want another bite of that great meal later.

Then the men would gather on the porch, and us women set down in the living room; all for some good conversations and laughter.  Oh my, I smile now just thinking of all those wonderful times.

Those certainly were the days!  I so hope and pray you know what I’m talking about, that you have such wonderful memories as those for your own families.

Nowadays, we seem to go to Church and gather at one of the hundreds of restaurants to eat together.  I know, we do it that way all the time too.  Well except, for Holidays.  But it always just seems too crowded and noisy and usually, you rush through dinner and then just go your separate ways, til next time.

But not today, after last weeks dinner out, my daughter and I have decided to have a good old family dinner at home.  So I got up early, set the table with the actual dishes, not paper plates yall;  and then I proceeded to start cooking.  My daughter is at home getting her family ready for Church and doing the same.

Then after Church, we’re gonna gather here at the house, the guys talk about Nascar, the kids play and us two women, get everything out of the oven and on the table for a wonderful old-fashioned family dinner.

I’m so looking forward to it. Smiling now as I think about it.  Yes, it’s more work and clean up after, but it’s also a relaxing quiet time of family sitting at the table, saying grace and enjoying a Sunday dinner, as it should be; like it used to be.

I hope you consider it for your own family someday soon.  It will make memories that will last a lifetime.  If you don’t have family nearby, remember what I said in the Family blog.  A family isn’t necessarily blood relatives.  A family is anybody you spend time with that you care for.  Whether that’s blood family, friends, co-workers, senior community, anybody, goodness, invite the widows and single parents in your community.  Just consider a good old fashioned family dinner sometime soon. 

I bet you will love it and smile about it with fond memories later.

Happy eating, til next time!






Have you ever wondered about time and how it just seems to slip by so very fast?  It seems like it was just yesterday that it was Spring and here we are in the middle of October already.

Goodness, it passes so fast!

Life and time are so very precious, and yet we just seem to take it all for granted. As you travel along a highway it seems that everybody is always in such a huge rush.

We all complain that time passes so fast, yet in reality, it doesn’t pass any faster than it did 50 years ago, or even 500 years ago.  There is still the same 24 hours in a day, and still 60 minutes in every hour.

It’s not that time really passes too fast, it’s just that we all are so busy and fast-paced that we just don’t slow down and enjoy it.   We get up, go to work, go home, activities, sports, chores,  dinner, showers and off to bed; just to do it all over again the next day, and the next.

We simply just don’t slow down and stop to enjoy it!

If we all would just slow down and savor the moments, we would find out it’s all still there, every minute of every hour, and every hour of every day.  But instead, what do we do?

We wish it away!   Weekday mornings, “I can’t wait till quitting time.”   By midweek, ” I can’t wait till the weekend.”  And on and on that merry go round goes.

God did not mean for us to live like this.  Yes, we are to work and provide and have daily things to do; but I don’t think we are to just rush through our days wishing them away.   Life is precious!

God, was busy making the entire world for six days.  But somehow, I just don’t picture Him rushing through it, wishing He was done and it was over with.  I believe He took His time!  I believe He thought about what He was doing; enjoying every minute.

Just imagine, Him taking the time and pleasure in His work; in every simple thing, He created.  He made the stars, the oceans, the trees and flowers, the birds and butterflies, the animals, man and woman, and everything else in between.

He had an entire world to create, and He did it in just six days.   But did He rush?  No, not in the least.   Why do you ask?   Because He said, “This is good.”

If you take the time to do something or create something, and you take pleasure in it, you don’t go this is good, while rushing on to something else.  No, you stop and take the time to look at it, relish in it, and say “This is good,” most likely with a sense of satisfaction and a smile on your face.  Am I right?

So if God, took the time to create the world, and He enjoyed and thought what He created was good, then don’t you imagine He took His time?

But, the point I am making is what did He do on that seventh day?   He rested.  Hint, when do we ever slow down, savor our creations and tasks, and just simply take a day to rest?  

Life is precious and short, so shouldn’t we stop and rest, just like God did?

My goodness, 50 years ago, people rested.  The women would clean and cook on Saturdays for their Sunday lunch.   And on Sunday, what did they do?   Why they went to Church, worshiped the Lord with one another.   They would go home to a family lunch they had prepared for their families and often others they would invite.

They would sit on the front porch and visit with one another, take an afternoon nap.  They simply slowed down, cherished the moments of the day and rested.      

I so want to just slow down, enjoy my work as God did, and then just stop, relax, rest, sit in that rocking chair on my front porch, go to Church, have Sunday family dinner, visit, nap and cherish life one day a week. 

And while I am at it, slow down and enjoy all the days through the week as well.   Don’t you?

Imaginary Friends

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Have you ever wondered about a child’s imaginary friend? 

I have often.

You see to me, I just don’t believe it is simply a play friend of theirs.

I truly believe they are able to see and hear their imaginary friend.

No, I am not crazy or delusional.

I truly believe they are seeing their guardian angel that God has appointed to watch over them during their lifetime.

Why can’t the older kids and adults see them?

I think that is such a simple answer.

We don’t have that childlike faith and innocence any longer.

I think as we start to grow up we lose that innocence, childlike faith as we see more and more of the world. 

We crowd out the simpleness of our lives with television, learning sin and growing up.

Of course, all this is simply my opinion, but I truly believe its true.

I will give you some true examples.

After we lost a very special person in our family, one of the younger children in our family was able to see him in Spirit at times. 

Then one day he saw his picture and told his Mommy:  “I know that boy, I have seen him.”  

Honest to goodness, truly happened.

Another instance, a child and his family were driving down the highway and pulled over for a funeral procession. 

The young child asked:  “Mommy why is that little girl sitting on that box in that car waving at me?

I truly believe that baby, well little boy saw the little girl in that hearse waving and smiling.

I truly believe that children can see the heavenly world and angels that we simply just can not see.

Isn’t that simply amazing and awesome?!

Another group of people that I truly believe can see their imaginary friends and angels are the special needs children and adults of this world.  

I often think we mistake some people as crazy and talking to themselves when in reality they are talking with their angelic guardian.

Just like when we are approaching death, I believe we see our loved ones waiting to meet us that have already gone home.

True story.

I was staying with one of the most God fearing women I had ever known when she needed somebody to be there with her, during a tough time in her life. 

She said one day: 

“Christine, don’t be frightened if you see a man sitting on the porch swing from time to time.  It’s my Daddy and he has come to watch over me during this time.”

The peace that constantly filled her home was so overwhelming at all times, the peace of God filled her home, her life and everybody that entered in. 

True peace!!

This dear beloved woman went home to be with the Lord just a couple of weeks later.  

Our family lost a precious soul that day, but Heaven gained a dear sweet precious angel.

Do I believe all three examples truly happened?  

Yes, I know for a fact all three happened, beyond a shadow of a doubt.

So when you see your child, or a special needs child or adult, or a loved one getting ready to go home… and they seem to be watching and talking with somebody we can’t see.

Simply smile and know that God is with them in the form of a guardian angel, or a family member sent just especially for them.

For as the Bible says, we each are appointed a guardian angel, and we entertain angels unaware.

Don’t you wish we all could see and talk with our angel like that? 

I sure do!!!!!!




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