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Missing a Loved One


Death, a very real part of life, yet it hurts beyond measure to lose a loved one.

I’m fortunate that I still have my immediate family, yes I have lost grandparents, uncles and aunts, several close friends, and my first husband.

Yes, the loss of each hurts, some way more than others; and often terribly bad when you least expect it.

I often find myself talking to the person, yes I know they are not physically here, but well, I find it comforting.

Our children’s Daddy, my first husband passed away last April; and this past Friday was his birthday.

My heart broke for our two kids, especially our daughter, and his parents and brother.

I even hurt, didn’t expect it to be so bad, I pulled out the high school annual and tried to read it, all five pages he wrote me way back then.

But between the already blurred vision and the tears, it was near impossible; but I still remember what it says from when he did write it. so many years ago.

No, our marriage didn’t last, it ended in divorce over twenty years ago.  But his death still hurts ever so badly.

We both moved on, today I’m very happily married to a wonderful man that I love dearly. 

But I  just didn’t expect all those emotions last April or this past Friday, but emotions are odd like that sometimes.

I don’t think a piece of paper stops the love you share with someone for fifteen years, it just doesn’t.

My heart really hurts for people when they lose a loved one.  

There seem to be so many widowed women at our Church, and I admire their strength but hurt for them as well.

I hurt for my grown children and our grandchildren for their loss of a Daddy and Pappaw.

I still hurt for my husband that has lost a brother, sister, nephew, niece, Dad and several uncles all within just the past few years.

His Dad was really the hardest I think for me, he was the first person I had ever seen pass.  

My husband had to leave the room, so I sat and rubbed his forehead, told him how much everybody loved him.

I prayed with him, and then I told him, Tommy honey we all love you enough to let you say goodbye and go home, instead of suffering the way you do.

While he was sick the month prior to his death, he enjoyed having Jeff and I there with him.

It was a very hard, heartbreaking time, but he needed us and we were there to help any way we could.

Then one day a song popped in my heart, I knew it was God that put it there, and as I began to hum it, Tommy looked so peaceful, even smiled a bit.

He loved me singing that song to him.  I know it was from the Lord.

And on that Palm Sunday morning, sitting in that hospital room, after I told him we all loved him enough to let him go, I sat holding his hand and sang it to him.  

Precious Lord take my hand, lead me on, help me stand, Lord I’m tired, Lord I’m weak, Lord I’m worn.  Through the storm, through the night, lead me on to the light.  Take my hand, precious Lord, lead me home.

And as I sang that song, I could see him slipping away, laboring for breath, the nurse came in, and within a minute, he was gone.  Just as I finished the chorus of that song.   

Take my hand, Precious Lord, lead me home. 

It was heartbreaking and peaceful all at the same time.

I pray for all of us that have lost loved ones, that are in the midst of losing a loved one right now, that we will all be surrounded by God’s unfailing love and comfort. 

He alone can provide the strength and the peace to make it through.

I pray that each of us can slowly start to heal, just a little bit more each day, and at last smile again.

To focus on all the good times, we shared with our loved ones, their smile, their laugh, their beautiful eyes and sense of humor.  The joy they brought to many, the love that they shared with their family and friends.

Don’t ever think death is the end, for it is not.

We will all see our loved ones again someday.

Yes, it hurts to let them go, and sometimes especially when it is sudden and unexpected.

And there isn’t anything that anybody can say or do to help take the pain away or lessen the hurt.

But eventually life does go on, little by little, a smile will creep in, the sunrise will catch your eye, a child’s laughter.

Life does go on, no, its never going to be the same as when they were here with us. 

But our loved ones would want us to go on with our lives, to live, and to enjoy the great times that we shared with them; and share those memories with others. 

Today, tomorrow and always!!!!

Helping Others

Do you know the joy of helping somebody else?

To me, there’s no greater gift that I can give another than to help.

I don’t mean just in monetary ways.

Just taking the time to do a kind gesture for a person.

Not because you have to, but because you want to.

You may be thinking, I can’t make ends meet now.

Helping others isn’t about money.

There are as many different ways to help somebody as there are crayon colors.

And Crayola makes some mighty big boxes of crayons, nowadays!

For instance, here are a few ways to help others:

Hold a door open for a person.

Get something off a high shelf for a shopper.

Put a persons shopping cart away for them.

Allow somebody with fewer items to go in front of you at checkout.

Share your umbrella with another in the rain.

Help carry somebodies shopping bags.

Send a card to a friend or family member just because.

Take time to listen when someone needs to talk.

Take a coworker a coffee one morning out of the blue.

Treat a friend to lunch.

Take food to a family that has lost a loved one.

Help a person rake leaves.

Help weed the flowerbed.

Volunteer to cut the grass.

Take time just to visit a neighbor.

Offer to babysit for a single parent, to give them some “me” time.

Stop and buy that box of girl scout cookies.

Give to the fireman, the Shriners, and other organizations, even if it’s just a dime.

Smile at everybody you see and say hello.

Visit a Senior Citizens home, and just sit and visit with one or two.

Volunteer at your Church for projects and tasks.

Shovel the snow from a driveway.

Offer a hug when someone is hurting.

Spend a few extra dollars at Christmas for a gift for a child, that won’t have anything.

Clean out your closet and donate to others that could use your clothes or shoes.

Donate those extra winter coats and gloves for others.

Drop off books to the jails or prisons.

Volunteer at a library, or hospital, or anywhere people are needed.

Volunteer to read stories to children at your local elementary school.

Just simply show kindness everywhere you go.

If you take the time to think about this,

You will come up with a lot more ideas.

And just imagine if we all just showed kindness and did one small gesture a day,

How much happier the people in this world would be.

The recipient will feel that someone cares, and you will feel a blessing in your heart.

So what are you waiting for?

Let’s all go help somebody, in some little way.

I promise you both will be blessed for it!!!

Til next time, dear friends!!!!

What is Love?

What is Love?

I think that if you asked a hundred people that question, you would a variety of answers.

To some, love is giddy, joy, happiness, romance, relationships, marriage, fun times, memorable moments.

There’s love for mates, spouses, a child, parents, grandparents, grandchildren, family, friends, Church family.

There’s even love for animals lovers, the dogs, cats, birds, hamsters, fish, even a horse somebody rides.

There’s a love of hobbies: gardening, reading, shopping, crafts, hiking, fishing, hunting, Nascar, baseball, football.

There’s a love of some professions, they love their job, it fits them, and they take joy in it, it makes them happy.

There’s a love for food, everybody seems to have their favorites, and they love it, for me its caramel frappes.

There’s love for nature: some love the mountains, some flowers, some the beach, some the desert, or the rivers.

There’s a love for music; some it’s country, or rock, or gospel, or jazz, or classical, or rap or pop, maybe easy listening,

There are so many answers to the question, “What is Love?”

But for today, on this Valentines Day, I’m going to describe love from two points of view.

My view of love is caring for someone so much that you think of them several times a day, you smile when you see them pulling up at home, you do little things for them, “just because.”

You rejoice with them when they are happy, and you hurt with them when they are sad, or having a tough time.

You love them just as they are, no you may not like everything about them, but you simply love them as is.

You see them at their best and see them at their worst, yet you so very much still love them.

You enjoy their company, holding hands, walks together, sharing things together, or just simply sitting together talking, or maybe not saying anything at all, just simply being together, content as can be.

Love is trust and respect for one another; kindness and compromise; affection and laughter.

Love is hanging on through the hard times as well as the good times.

Love is helping when they are sick, in any and every way possible to help them feel better.

Love is being true, honest and faithful, putting them first above others.

To me, that is some of the attributes of love.

But the best way to describe love is from God’s point of view, after all, He is the creator of love.

He loved us so much that He offered His only Son, Jesus Christ on a cross, for us to have salvation.

God says we are to love Him, and we are to love others as we love ourselves.

And to quote the verses on love, I always go to the Holy Bible, I Corinthians Chapter 13, verses 4 – 8.

Verse 4 – Love suffereth long and is kind, love envieth not, love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.

Verse 5 – Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.

Verse 6 – Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.

Verse 7 – Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Verse 8 – Love never faileth!

I hope you have a wonderful Valentines Day, and I hope that all the love that is shown today is true and wonderful.

But my real hope and prayer is that it doesn’t end today, but we practice it every day with everybody.

From my heart to yours: Happy Valentines Day!!!!

Heavens Grocery Store

I want to tell yall a short story about this title, to help you understand why it means so much to me.

You see, I’m the office manager at a trucking company.    And well truck drivers are just people like everybody else.

And I have learned you can’t judge a book by its cover, and more importantly you can’t know a person’s heart, by the way, they look on the outside.

We had a truck driver many years ago, he was an older guy, talked loud, smoked a really smelly pipe all the time, wore jeans, black leather vest, cowboy boots and a wallet with a chain attached. 

He drove for us for quite some time, I always thought he had a biker outlaw image and could stretch the truth like a rubber band.

You never knew what was true and what wasn’t, most of the time it was the latter.

But anyway, he was the last person, I would have ever thought would do this.

But one afternoon, after he got in for a trip, he said…. ” Hey Christine, I got something for ya, when I saw it I thought of you.”

I had no idea what to expect.

Ron was a unique person, to put it mildly.

But to my surprise it was this beautiful poem, framed, that brought tears when I read it.

I brought it home and hung it on the wall, I still read it often, and yes it brings kind thoughts of a tough image man, that seemed to have a tender heart tucked away inside under all that tough exterior image.

I don’t know the author, I wish I did so I could recognize him here and tell him what a beautiful true story he or she had written.

I hope it touches your heart as well.

“Heaven’s Grocery Store”

I was walking down life’s highway a long time ago,

One day I saw a sign that said “Heaven’s Grocery Store.”

As I got a little closer the door came open wide,

And when I came to myself, I was standing inside.

I saw a host of angels, they were standing everywhere,

One handed me a basket, and said: “Child, shop with care.”

Everything a Christian needed was in that grocery store, 

And all you couldn’t carry, you could come back for more.

First I got some Patience, Love was in the same row,

Farther down was Understanding, you need that everywhere you go.

I got a box or two of Wisdom, a bag or two of Faith, 

I just couldn’t miss the Holy Ghost, for it was all over the place.

I stopped to get some Strength and Courage to help me run this race,

I didn’t forget Salvation, for Salvation that was free.

So I tried to get enough to save both you and me.

Then I started up to the counter to pay my grocery bill,

For I thought I had everything to do my Master’s will.

As I went up the aisle, I saw Prayer and I had to put that in,

For I knew when I stepped outside, I would run right into sin.

Peace and Joy were plentiful, they were near the last shelf, 

Songs and Praises were hanging, so I just helped myself.

Then I said to the angel, “Now how much do I owe?”

He just smiled and said, “Just take them everywhere you go.”

Again I smiled and said to him, “How much do I really owe?”

He smiled again and said, “My child, Jesus paid your bill a long time ago!”

True Godly Women

I’ve had the blessing through the years of knowing so many Godly women.

There are a few that really meant the world to me.

Pull up a chair, get comfy and let me tell you about these three amazing women that have touched my life in such a wonderful way, and of course, there are many others because of their faithful love for our Father God.  

The first dear sweet lady was Mrs. Bramlett, if you have read the blog ” Those ol Mom and Pop Places., you will know exactly who I am talking about. 

Mrs. Bramlett was simply a pure sweet God fearing lady.  She never had an unkind word about anything or anybody.   

She loved the Lord, loved people, and read the Bible daily.  I so loved her.

I worked at their little cafe for a bit, and in the afternoon when times slowed down we would have a glass of tea and Bible study time. I learned so much from her.

But, what really touched my heart was when Mr. Bramlett passed away, she stood there in the funeral home, and I never saw her shed a tear. They were a dear couple that was married for over 50 years, and she said: ” It was all okay, she knew he was with the Lord, and she had peace beyond measure knowing he was with God.”

She was indeed a very precious, kind, caring woman that always had a smile for everyone and God in the center of her world.

I so love and miss her!

The next dear lady that I want to tell you about was a precious soul that everybody called Mammaw Pearson. She was my first husbands Mammaw, but more importantly, she was a true saint.

She read her Bible always, knew it cover to cover, walked the walk and never ever had a bad thought about anybody. She was a dainty little soul, with a sheepish smile and such a soft voice. She taught me so very much about God’s word and loving others.

I can remember one of the many family get-togethers, and how everybody was invited, even those that were once married, they all were still family to her always.

But what I remember most about Mammaw Pearson was when the kids and I spent a few days with her while Pappaw was in the hospital. Mammaw would kneel down every night with us by the bed for bedtime prayers.

She was a joyful, sweet kind soul that everybody loved so dearly.

Oh, how I love and miss her.

The last lady I want to talk about was a dear sweet lady that I knew in the work world. She worked at the office across the street from mine. I would go over often for various work reasons.

A very precious soul that I called Ms. Janet worked there. She was a true sincere kind woman.

She always had a smile, and lunches with her were always so enjoyable. We would talk about our families, Church and the Bible.

She so loved God and lived it.  I never heard her say an unkind word about anybody.

Even later when she got cancer, I never once heard her complain. “It’s in Gods hands.”   Her faith and prayers, and the prayers of so many others helped her through tough times with cancer and treatments.

Cancer eventually won and she went home to be with the Lord.

But oh how I miss her and that smile she had every day, no matter what was going on in her life.

I loved and greatly respected Ms. Janet, she was a true Saint!

I feel I have been so very blessed in my life with Godly women throughout my life.

From Grandmas to neighbors, to Mammaw and my first Mother in law.

All the precious souls at Shiloh where I went for years to Cloverleaf where I go now.

All the precious women I’ve worked with through the years and befriended.

God has truly blessed me with Godly women, mentors, prayer partners and friends.

I am so very grateful to the Lord up above for placing each dear precious soul in my life.

My prayer is that I will be thought of as a Godly woman just as all of these precious women are and were and that someday I can be that same Godly soul touching other women’s hearts!

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